Before you order those bridal shower favors or wedding shower favors and before you rent that hall and pick out the tuxedo and wedding gown, there is something else that you must figure out. It is a question that every couple must face when they decide to take the big leap into the rest of their lives together. Do you need pre-marital counseling? It wasn’t too many years ago that this question would never have come up but in today’s world, it is just as legitimate a question as “Do you take this man or woman to be your lawfully wedded spouse?” Here is why and some good reasons to consider it.
In today’s marital world, slightly more than 50% of marriages end in divorce. There are multitudes of reasons why this happens but none so often cited than irreconcilable differences. The majority of divorces and annulments state that the couples have differences that just cannot be overcome. However, studies have shown that couples, who go through counseling before they tie the knot, spend less time if any at all in counseling after the fact. Even better news is that couples whom council stand a much better chance of not divorcing at all. With this in mind, why would you not consider talking to someone who is qualified to listen and guide before you marry?
It is hard to find a religious leader that will marry anyone today without them first consenting to several months of couples counseling. Pastors, preachers, and clergymen around the world are recognizing the facts. Our family based society is lacking the most important element that makes it work…, families. If going to see a professional once a week for a couple of months would help, then young people in love owe it to themselves and their families to give it a whirl.
Many couples will not go to pre-marital counseling because they do not feel that they have a problem. They are operating under the misconception that you do not fix something that has yet to be broken. It is exactly this bottleneck method of thinking that gets many people into trouble in the first place. The institute of marriage has been around since the world began and people realized the value of being in a monogamous relationship as it relates to society as a whole. There are no new problems and we have come to a point where we recognize the obstacles and can figure our way around them long before they even exist.
Some couples will not go to counseling because it involves a form of psychotherapy and the stigma that it presents as such. Fortunate are we that many of our clergy are qualified psychotherapists and even those who are not are usually sensible enough to be able to apply basic bible principals to guide couples along the path of good marital health.
If you truly love the person with whom you have chosen to spend a lifetime, a few months of counseling is a small price to pay for happiness. Why would anyone want to take a chance of landing in the group of unfortunate souls who divorce when it could possibly be avoided? So consider pre-marital counseling. You have literally nothing to lose and everything to gain. Besides, you might learn something about yourselves and each other that would make the ride that much better. That in itself, is worth the price of admission.
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